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post #1 of 6 Old 08-23-2019, 07:47 AM Thread Starter
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Smile Hello!

Hello! My name is Haley, I'm nineteen and I live in Iowa. (Almost twenty! September 3rd!)

I used to show when I was in middle school, but got too busy in high school and fell out of horses. My senior year, I tried to get back into riding, but had an accident that resulted in a really bad concussion and some hip issues. :(
I bought my pony Boo some months ago with the hope of riding again, this time on a smaller horse, but I just haven't worked up the courage yet! We've been doing a lot of groundwork leading up to my eventual first ride on him :)
My first horse was Shoshone (hence the username), but she became blind and then had a really horrible fall that resulted in her having to be put down :(

I'm currently going to community college for Computer Science, but my end goal is to own my own therapy stable for veterans and their families! I'm also flip flopping between Computer Science and Veterinary stuff, college is hard!

I'm happy to be here! I've made an account before, but got confused and thought I lost it, then didn't, and now I'm here and still confused! (Happens a lot in my world!)
You'll probably be seeing a lot of posts from me as I work my way back into the horse world! :)
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post #2 of 6 Old 08-23-2019, 01:13 PM
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Welcome back! I'm really sorry your horse had to be put down 😞. Good luck with your new one, take yoyr time and don't rush into it, I own a little dartmoor hill pony who was rescued from slaughter, he's such a lovely boy and really proud of how far he's come 🙂
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post #3 of 6 Old 08-24-2019, 10:51 AM Thread Starter
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Thank you very much! Boo and I have been working really hard, he's such a fast learner and we are learning to get past our fears together :)
And that is so awesome that you rescued him!!! <3 We have a little rescue paint pony, she gave us the most beautiful foal after we rescued her <3
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post #4 of 6 Old 08-24-2019, 03:47 PM
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Cute! I love foals, the person we bought him off had gone to the auction and bought them, I cry thinking about what could've happened to him if she didn't buy him
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post #5 of 6 Old 09-08-2019, 08:58 AM
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Hey Haley,
I am also new to this forum..hope to have a good experience ahead. :)
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post #6 of 6 Old 09-08-2019, 11:16 AM
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I've been waiting to share some things I learned in regard to fear! I have three instances that likely contributed to my current riding fear. I think if I went back to the lesson horses it wouldn't be as big of a fear, especially after being on one of them once or twice.

Its specifically my horse that I leased to own, fully purchasing a few weeks ago, that I have the fear with. Leased since end of March but haven't been on him much. Mostly due to an abscess, then a mouth issue, then a chiro issue, and her doing barrels in the summer.

I took lessons as a teenager for a season and then started working part time at a horse facility last October at 44 years old. Nothing in between there except a few commercialized trail rides on horses that could do it in their sleep. Started lessons in November. Instructor and also a Lead at the barn we work at got one from a rescue as a winter project and I needed him when I started seeing the for sale posts. His eyes!! Him and her horse are boarded at a different facility just a few miles from the barn we work at. I actually purchased him about four months early because a stall became available at the barn we work at and I'm moving him in five days. Both barns have about 35 horses. The one we work at does quite a bit of training. At least a third of the horses there are just in for training. A third are long time boarders. And then the last third rotate a bit. National renowned horse trainer Nicole Brickner owns the business.

FINALLY we got to where I can lesson on him consistently and even get on him now without KW (who I purchased from) being there for a lesson. Aaaaand now I don't want to. I'm one of those that learned a little bit on the lesson horses and wanted to have 'free' time with them unstructured and by myself. It was winter and ice would fall off the arena roof and they would spook. I learned to instantly relax during one of their small spooks to help them get over it fast as possible. I wasn't ever nervous or scared. I was confident when I probably shouldn't have been yet! But put green on green.... yikes. Add in seeing him be a wild man and bronc off KW the very first time I went to see her working him. The lease to own deal was she kept working with him until full purchase which was going to be about nine months. Ended up about five. It was a horrible bucking incident. She came out okay other than feeling it for a week. Neck, back and head sore. She hung in but lost balance for a split second and in turn lost her seat.

Then a few weeks after that we went on a trail ride and he took off with me across a crop field, the entire field stopping just before the ditch and road. My first time cantering was a few days prior to that during a lesson on her been there done that horse on a lunge line. I tried stopping him the entire field, that emergency brake is not a given! After he finally stopped he then also tried taking off once I hit the ground. I held on but I was scared he was going to run off and he wasn't technically mine yet. She told me after she caught up to us he likely would have headed back to his pasture mates.

And this is unrelated but I do think contributed to my anxiety about being on him, but I was hand grazing and old horse at the barn I work at and he spooked about something he made up in his head and he jumped right into me and knocked me quit a ways away onto my head and back. Nothing serious but felt it for some time. He's an old dying horse that his owner makes stay in a stall and I got permission to graze him for ten minutes a day. For some reason that incident did affect me too I think. And ground walking horses is something I do ALOT at my part time job. It doesn't bother me at all. But this contributed to my fear to get on Reno I think as well.

Now the good stuff. Three weeks ago just the thought in my head of heading out to ride Reno hours into the future would make my chest tighten, sick feeling in my stomach, and sweating happen instantly. Hate it because its automatic and uncontrollable. I like to think I'm better than that and could control it. Cant! I'm also an Army Vet and unrelated have gone sky diving, I'm not naturally a person who cannot overcome fear.

I just did some deep thinking with myself and decided to say outloud on my way out to him, I will get on Reno and I'll be fine, over and over. The day before I went out to ride him and I couldn't get on. The first day I tried this, I did it. I was nervous but not shaking or sweat dripping, just a little moisture. lol I've done this a couple times now and it really actually helps. And I figured out it helps because it doesn't allow your mind to start thinking about the what ifs and get more out of control with that. It refocuses the mind.

I also had one not so great lesson since this started. There was another horse in the arena that shouldn't have been ridden, its obviously lame and horse started protesting with its body. Reno was great, one small spook and settled right away but the other horse kept at it and I dismounted. I was already not doing great with anxiety being on him even hand walked by instructor. I'd just gotten off her line and it happened. It was fine but it didn't help me any when all said and done that day.

Then I got back on him once by myself talking out loud all the way there again saying over and over that I was going to get on him and be fine. I'd once again tried the day before but couldn't. Literally sat on him and got off. His bucking was due to discomfort that was resolved with a chiro so I feel like if he is going to do something it would be right when I get on him like when KW did.

Then just last Wednesday I had a lesson. KW was working MY mind and keeping it off things. It really really helped! She had just taught me how to ask him to collect at a walk the week before when that other horse was acting up in arena. So she had me basically doing figure 8's and asking him over and over to collect. He doesn't hold it for me and I release the pressure right away so it was just doing it over and over. I never had time to think about bad things that could happen. It really boosted my confidence. Now I don't instantly feel sick thinking about getting on him hours from now. And If I self talk all the way there it doesn't have time to creep in then either. It does work! Having someone there to push you to do specific things to take mind off of what could happen and also the self talk that you will do it and it will be fine help so other negative self talk cannot enter your mind DOES HELP!!
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