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post #1 of 2 Old 12-04-2016, 03:12 PM Thread Starter
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Hello there! I am new to the whole forum-world, so please excuse me if I do something wrong.

My name is Baylee, and I am 23 years old. I live in Ohio, and I have grown up with very competitive barrel/pole horses all of my life. However, since I left for college when I was 18, I have not really ridden much. Quite frankly, I gained a lot of weight as well, which has made me very self-conscious in all aspects.

Recently, I have gotten back into riding by volunteering at my local equine rescue. After hearing about my background, they assigned me two horses right away, and now I have a lot on my plate. I joined this forum because I am starting to feel really discouraged about my rusty riding and horse handling. These horses are not the high-performance, well trained animals that I am used to, and that is quite a challenge for me. I am a perfectionist, and every time I make a mistake, it weighs on me all week until I go back on the weekend.

Lastly, I really want to make some friends. Since I graduated college, I have been really lonely. All my friends moved away to different states, and all I have left is my boyfriend. I am starting to make friends at the rescue, but I am too shy to really have meaningful conversations with them. I also feel like being a plus-sized rider has made me feel really uneasy when talking to them, because I feel judged.

So, if anyone wants someone to talk to, please please message me? I promise I'm really nice I'm just too shy to talk to anyone first.
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post #2 of 2 Old 12-04-2016, 03:32 PM
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I just wanted to say Welcome to the Forums! I look forward to getting to know you more whenever you post! I am naturally shy as well and have had to work to get out of my shell. I'm sure it'll get easier and easier getting back into the horse world as well as making new friends. And horseback riding sure isn't for the faint of heart It'll take some time to get used to being back in the saddle again! :) I know I'm rusty after being gone for 2 weeks, so don't be hard on yourself for not riding for several years and finding it harder! I am also a perfectionist, but every time I find myself over-analyzing everything and comparing myself to other riders, I just force myself to stop. I look at all the positives and clear my mind when I get on again- each ride is a new ride!

Something that may help in getting to know the people at your stable without necessarily talking to them face to face is just spending "horse time" with them. If you're able, go on a trial ride, schedule a time to ride together, groom your horses together, whatever! I've found it's a lot easier to talk to people when you have something else to focus on or aren't face to face with them....like in the car! I always love finding common ground with people, so swap "horse jokes" with the people at the stable. You know, those little quirks every horse has (i.e. jumping over a tiny puddle like it's an ocean). Or just plain chat about horses or easy stuff going on- it doesn't necessarily have to be a deep, meaningful conversation. That will come later on when you know them better. I know I'm still trying to get to know some new girls at my stable!

I know all of that's a lot easier said than done, but I wish you the best of luck! Oh, and I'd love to see pictures of the horses you're working with! If you ever want to chat, you're more than welcome to PM me as well!

"Do you give the horse its strength or clothe its neck with a flowing mane?" ~Job 39:19
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